CONSULTATION CLIENTS' COMMENTS

Taking this step, talking to you, has made me feel like I have a least a modicum of control over this how I handle this situation -- this is the first morning in a long time that I've not woken up tired.

I read your consultation email several times and it is very useful. Your work for me is awesome.  I have not told anyone but you, so that is why this was so important to me. I think you are wonderful and I have processed all your information. Thank your for everything, you have been a big help to me. 

Just want to let you know that my consultation yesterday gave me much to think about. Your comments about first love helped me to sort out the issues, even though it is very painful to think this through.

You are so unique in your knowledge of all this, and talking with you feels like talking with a friend you've known a while, that I feel better even though my situation is so painful.

I know you do much good with your understanding and research, so thank you for doing this work, and I do hope you will continue with all of it.

I love your book and it was a great consultation; With me being in a love situation newly revived, you helped me accept that the intensity is "normal" and that planning a future at 61 and 65 is not senility. For the first time, I am comfortable with what is happening to me.

Dr. Kalish, you have helped me tremendously -- and I'm not just saying that. Since I talked with you, I don't think about my old love constantly.I don't have the urge to call him just to get a response (you know, the "any response is better than none" dilemma). 

I am very grateful to you. I am hoping that anyone who feels the strong need to post on the Boards, will seek out a consultation with you, because it may make a huge difference in their reconnection.

Dr. Nancy, you'll never know how many people have benefited from your work, because they might not all be able to come back to thank you.  But work like yours does make a difference.  It's important!

TRUST ME on this one - YOU have made an incredible difference in the lives of at least two people who walk this earth and are trying to "find themselves" so that they can make more of a contribution to the world. We will NEVER be able to thank you enough!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Can't thank you enough for your research, book and my consultation. You are an angel sent to those like me. Maybe you will write another book or a movie, and our love story can be a part of it.

I feel that you are my friend. You helped validate what I was thinking and feeling and that was very valuable. Thank you for your time and your work. I know you have helped many people and your work will continue to help many to live life to its fullest.

The issue of reunited couples is currently the focus of three clients in my practice. The patterns you discovered have definitely been of help to me personally and in my work as a psychotherapist. I also think that your area of research may become more well known as we boomers age and begin to seek former connections. I hope this is so. I think you have made a real contribution.

There have been times I thought I was losing my mind.  Now I know I am not!  This is tremendous!  I am very, very grateful to you.

Doing the footwork of mailing a short note to my Lost Love shocked me back into reality. It was terrifying but, at the same time, the "teenage girl" is no longer in charge. I feel more than capable of coping with any outcome at this point and also somewhat free of the whole "issue." My attention has been turning to other things more and more, the hurt is no longer eating me alive, and I know for a fact I will be "very okay" no matter how all of this turns out.

As others have said on your web site a lot recently, without your research on the subject and your perspective, I wouldn't have ever understood what was happening to me or why.

I got strength from hearing myself tell you the facts of my situation.  Thank you for the hour you spent with me. 

After my meeting with my lost love, things began to go awry. I had opened the floodgates and wasn't fully prepared for the outcome of such intense & overwhelming emotions. I knew I had to seek out additional help. The pain was just too great! 

My regular therapist was not helpful for rekindled romance issues, although she was wonderful for me in other areas. I needed someone who knew exactly what I was going through and could answer my many varied questions: "Why do I feel so stupid now?"  "And why do I feel so rejected?" That's when I turned to Dr. Nancy Kalish. 

My past experiences have been that immediate responding to pain by an expert rarely happens, as oftentimes the client is asked to wait even a few weeks, until an available slot opens. It can be difficult ~ almost impossible ~ to go on with life, when you're experiencing this kind of pain. But my consultation was very forthcoming.

Through the confusion of all my contacts with my lost love, past and present, I saw how I had not done anything wrong or intentionally hurtful to my lost love, but that he was very uncomfortable with the feelings I was needing to work through to some kind of resolution. And even though I thought I had only wanted acceptance of my apologies from the past, I really wanted more from him than what he could give me. Dr. Nancy helped me to see this important aspect, just like others in her book had done.

Had I not taken such a bold step as to speak with Dr. Kalish, I am positive that I would still be feeling the hurt & anger that I felt a month ago -- when my lost lover rejected my overtures for a lasting & (I'll admit) loving friendship.

If you find yourself in the same place as I did, where confusion and pain feel overwhelming, I would highly recommend arranging a consultation with her. She is a developmental psychologist who, as such, has awareness of life stage changes and needs. 

Not all experts in the field of psychology can understand & help you explore the lost love dynamics you may be dealing with.  But Dr. Kalish can, because of her many years of research & personal experiences. 

No matter what the outcome of my particular lost love experience, I wish everyone the very best in their Lost Love journeys, and would also like to express my heartfelt appreciation for Dr. Kalish's work and wonderful knowledge in this area.

Thank you very much, Dr. Nancy!

As for the consultation, I think you are doing a wonderful job. Your consultation helped me understand what my Lost Love did to me. I now have the ability to love someone else again (understanding that no two loves are exactly alike and it feels different). If I had not consulted with you, I would not have understood what I was feeling and why.

Now my relationship with my new love is different. I learned from you that I am not crazy, I just want to love and to be loved in that way I thought I only could get from one woman. I am learning that I can love again, and it gets better every day. I do not think I would be able to have this new relationship had I not had my consultation with you.

My email consultation helped clarify the confusion in my mind. Before I read your reply to my situation, I wondered whether I was selfish in the fact that instead of continuing a dialogue with my lost love, I popped into her life and then popped out without her having any say about it. I learned that I couldn't leave this emotional affair any other way. I was no different from other lost love participants.

Who knows what the future holds? But at least I'm clearer on my way forward!

Hello Dr. Kalish. Just wanted to let you know that I finally have an update concerning my lost love -- we are married!!! I want to thank you so much for your book, the consultation, and the web site. You have been a part of this journey almost from the beginning.

Thank you for your help..........simply, the knowledge from the beginning, before I even thought I would see her again, that it was possible for people to reconnect. That I was not crazy, and that this phenomenon of missing someone from long ago is common. Thanks again!

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